Hey friends 👋🏻

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It is an honest and vulnerable confession of my addiction to solitude and how I got out of my lonely chapter.

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Read on.

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Today in 3 minutes or less, you’ll learn:

✔️ The beauty of single tasking

✔️ Stop living like you’re immortal

✔️ What “personal development” costed me

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Doable ideas 💭

Do one activity (e.g. washing dishes, walking) mindfully and without multitasking.

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It is difficult even for me - I like my music or podcasts on when I’m driving, walking or cooking.

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More proof that we actually need to have intention and create the environment to make mindfulness happen.

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Whether that be meditation, float therapy or working out, it is valuable to have moments when you align your body and mind.

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It helps you focus fully on what you're doing right now. This reduces stress and mental overload that happens when you try to do too many things at once.

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Go single task.

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Reflections 🪞

How would I live differently if I truly embraced the finite nature of my time?

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Mindfulness 🧘🏻‍♀️

I don’t have a morning routine anymore.

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Back in 2022 I followed all of Dr. Andrew Huberman’s advice to optimise health: getting morning sunlight while walking outside, dealying caffeine intake, and planning the best times for exercise and focused work.

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I even wrote and made videos about it.

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But my life changed.

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I moved out.

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I had different goals.

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My work schedule changed.

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I’m not always sleeping alone.

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This path down in personal development made me become fixated and rigid in getting every aspect of my life in the “right” order.

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Solitude was addictive.

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I had control.

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Every minute I spent with myself could be disguised as self improvement.

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I felt good. But there was always a void that couldn’t be filled.

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You alone can only go so far.

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Walking with someone is a lot more effective and fun.

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I needed to end this lonely chapter, or thinking I’m in “monk mode”.

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During my quarterly review, I made it one of my values to focus on quality relationships.

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And I did go out of the comfort zone, right away.

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I attended several calisthenics groups.

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I started surrounding myself with like minded people.

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I stopped being rigid on tracking my every set, rep and RPE like I used to do when I trained alone.

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It was more effective in a way that, not only did I get to spend time with people but I also got my workout done. I also started to understand the inefficiency in my own unsolicited workout program.

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I started to know what was possible.

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As a massive introvert, it was not easy.

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But all human beings yearn for connection, despite their personalities.

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We all want to be heard and understood.

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Personal development is great, but it can be costly if you spend too much time alone, in your head.

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I learnt this lesson the hard way.

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It is not easy to get out of our shells.

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But I’m trying, every day, to make a difference.

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I stopped relying on the “best condition” - the sunlight, the caffeine, the walk - before I take action.

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Don't use self-improvement as an excuse to avoid what you really need to do.

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When was the last time you prioritised connection over personal optimisation?

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How might your life change if you balanced solitude with meaningful relationships?

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Ideas Worth Pondering 🧠

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Did you love this newsletter?

If so, please let me know by either:

• #1: Forwarding this to a friend whom you think would benefit from actionable well-being tips
• #2: Hitting reply. Send me a sentence or two about what you enjoyed. I meant it when I say I’d love to hear from you. Typing into the void isn’t nearly as fun as interacting with real humans :)

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Whenever you’re ready, there are 2 ways I can help you:

1. Claim your peace of mind with these handpan guided meditation soundtracks.
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Be awesome x

Venus

P.S. Here's what I'm doing now :)